"Friends List"

[furtech]

Again, I hate that LJ calls it that. I've always seen LJ as a kind of large party, where people share conversations and interests. Sometimes one drifts from group to group, listening with interest one moment, getting distracted the next.


I only do major re-shuffing of the friends list a couple times a year. The usual reason for adding or deleting someone is rarely personal (I hate/love you!). I believe that a journal is very personal-- no one has the right to dictate what one does/says/believes in their personal space. At the same time, if I'm uncomfortable with something, I'll just wander away. Most common reasons for removal: Intense (or just too many) posts on politics or religion; HUGE POSTS without cuts; adult-context art or links or text that isn't cut (with warnings). On rare occasions I've dink'd LJ'ers who I just have too little in common with. No offense intended. If you've been deleted and you're curious, post a reply here (or email me: furtech at akela doht com) and I'll explain. Nothing's permanent.

I've also been under a lot of stress lately. One too many posts about the HAWT SEHX you've just had or sugary posts about your sweetie (non-stop gushing) or posts solely made up of eighty-four lines of "<3 <3 <3"'s (or equally annoying stuff) have gotten dink'd. I don't hate you...I'm just not in the mood. I apologize if this comes off as arrogant or snobby (or just grouchy), but as I said above: journals are very personal things. Me? I don't like to be annoyed.

If I haven't added you, it could be that I just haven't updated my friends list yet. These days I generally won't add you unless I know you (or met IRL). You can always email me (see above) if I'm just not recognizing your LJ name. Thanks for your patience! And apologies to any toes I've stepped on.

Comments

[shadowolf.livejournal.com]

Well, I will say I was disappointed when you defriended me on June 13th (not that I'm counting ;-) I actually quite enjoyed reading the posts about going hiking with the dog and the pictures you'd put up, etc. To be honest, it's not important to me to know the reason I was dropped, since we barely know each other in person. I'm pretty sure we don't have that much in common outside of the fandom. I'd not go so far as to do more than mention that you can set up a custom friends list for reading, while having a separate list for posting, etc.

I do hope the stress level lowers, though.

[furtech.livejournal.com]

I think it was two things: too many borderline/innuendo posts and I kept confusing you with razor_wulff (for some reason at the time this annoyed me-- no fault of yours though!). As I say below, when I'm stressed I get cranky...when I'm cranky the oddest (and sometimes smallest) things can get to me. Hopefully I'll be less stressed sooner than later...