I've felt like this for a long time. I don't feel I really "fit in" with the "fandom" at large anymore. Though, I never really felt that way anyways!
I think one of the problems is I've developed a reluctance to be around "fannish" people, and the friends I've made in this (and other) fandoms are those that don't have that fannish air about them (or, at least, confine it to fannish activities). Most of the newer friends I've met and keep in contact with have interests outside the fandom, in the "real world" that I find a commonality with. This isn't isolated to "Furry", but any scifi/fantasy fandom. I stopped going to scifi/fantasy cons awhile ago because I was just getting irritated with the parade of fannish people, drama and attitudes.
The time, expense and stress related to going to cons just isn't worth it to me anymore. I keep thinking of the OTHER things I could be doing with that time instead of attending Cons! I'm single and I would really like to mingle in social scenes that are going to be productive in changing that. The whole furry scene doesn't really hold alot of options there. (If I were gay, well..it'd be a different story). I'm at the age where I should really be putting my social time into avenues where I have chances.
However, I *love* anthropomorphics. Its been a part of my life since childhood. Alot of the material in the fandom still attracts me. I've realized long ago I'll never grow entirely "tired" of the scene, but the "fandom" itself is stale and just not an attraction to me anymore.
Rereading this and I haven't exactly explained how I feel. :) Though, pinpointing on "fannish" behaviour is probably the #1 reason I am drifting. I prefer the company of people who have lives outside the fandom, but find the fandom a point of interest like I do.
I was fortunate to discover a POD of them at MFF. And thus, MFF 2004 was the best con experience I ever had.
No worries though, if I consider someone a "friend", either in the fandom or not, I'm not going to "drift away" from them.
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Date: 2004-12-14 04:44 am (UTC)I think one of the problems is I've developed a reluctance to be around "fannish" people, and the friends I've made in this (and other) fandoms are those that don't have that fannish air about them (or, at least, confine it to fannish activities). Most of the newer friends I've met and keep in contact with have interests outside the fandom, in the "real world" that I find a commonality with. This isn't isolated to "Furry", but any scifi/fantasy fandom. I stopped going to scifi/fantasy cons awhile ago because I was just getting irritated with the parade of fannish people, drama and attitudes.
The time, expense and stress related to going to cons just isn't worth it to me anymore. I keep thinking of the OTHER things I could be doing with that time instead of attending Cons! I'm single and I would really like to mingle in social scenes that are going to be productive in changing that. The whole furry scene doesn't really hold alot of options there. (If I were gay, well..it'd be a different story). I'm at the age where I should really be putting my social time into avenues where I have chances.
However, I *love* anthropomorphics. Its been a part of my life since childhood. Alot of the material in the fandom still attracts me. I've realized long ago I'll never grow entirely "tired" of the scene, but the "fandom" itself is stale and just not an attraction to me anymore.
Rereading this and I haven't exactly explained how I feel. :) Though, pinpointing on "fannish" behaviour is probably the #1 reason I am drifting. I prefer the company of people who have lives outside the fandom, but find the fandom a point of interest like I do.
I was fortunate to discover a POD of them at MFF. And thus, MFF 2004 was the best con experience I ever had.
No worries though, if I consider someone a "friend", either in the fandom or not, I'm not going to "drift away" from them.