I think a lot of it is also the company you keep. If your friends and family for the most part believe that you should 'grow up and settle down' you always have theat pressure nagging in the back of your mind 'I can't do this forever, I have to become a 'real' person soon, I must grow up.' In truth, you don't. i mean, you can't run around like a chile with a childs lack of responsibility and understanding of repurcussions, but you do not have to get married, settle and be who society pressures you to be. Times and lifestyles are changing. If you exist happily nurturing your childish (creative?) side, then that's what's right for you. I look at how my friends have changed over the years. The ones who have now 'grown up' have the fun of marriages falling apart and a self-enforced secluded existance where they only socialise with the 'right' kinds of people. The others seem happy, if a little unsettled. Sometimes if i'm away from something long enough I think I could happily live without it - then i'm reminded of what i'm missing and throw myself back into it again.
I don't see it as not growing up, I just see us as the new breed of grownups, the ones who have chosen not to sacrifice their happiness.
BTW - got a copy of Box of Delights burned on DVD. You wanted to watch it yea? The others
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Date: 2004-12-13 12:21 am (UTC)In truth, you don't. i mean, you can't run around like a chile with a childs lack of responsibility and understanding of repurcussions, but you do not have to get married, settle and be who society pressures you to be. Times and lifestyles are changing. If you exist happily nurturing your childish (creative?) side, then that's what's right for you.
I look at how my friends have changed over the years. The ones who have now 'grown up' have the fun of marriages falling apart and a self-enforced secluded existance where they only socialise with the 'right' kinds of people. The others seem happy, if a little unsettled.
Sometimes if i'm away from something long enough I think I could happily live without it - then i'm reminded of what i'm missing and throw myself back into it again.
I don't see it as not growing up, I just see us as the new breed of grownups, the ones who have chosen not to sacrifice their happiness.
BTW - got a copy of Box of Delights burned on DVD. You wanted to watch it yea?
The others